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New Reviews & What They Can Tell You

Now, i’m not one to brag, but I have had a small flurry of wonderful reviews lately, the highlights from which are below. Why don’t you take a look if you’re still undecided about booking? As well as being very sweet testaments to my sparkling wit and stunning decor (ok, I am bragging a little!) I think reviews left by other clients are a great way for new people to feel more at ease, and manage their expectations around how they imagine a session is going to go.

From the moment you make contact:

I exchanged emails with Alex before our session and outlined the sort of thing i was after – a roleplay with her as a French maid caught stealing. The emails were very professional and clear.

Alex is, from the moment you contact her, incredibly professional and efficient, her emails with me before the session put me at ease (as I was nervous about seeing a pro-submissive for the first time) She even sent me some reading material and a guide as to the basics of how to behave in booking, which I found helpful.

My session really started with my first contact via Alex’s website. As a complete novice to spanking and BDSM, I was apprehensive about documenting what I was looking for, mainly because I didn’t precisely know. Alex was very understanding and seems very knowledgable and I felt as though I was in expert hands. As a newbie, I wanted to understand both giving and receiving discipline from a range of implements, as I think it’s important to understand what it’s like to be on the other end of a cane, or crop, or flogger in order to know how to use it skilfully.

 

…Throughout our time together….

 

After arriving, Alex and I had a chat for a little while about what I wanted to do with her (which didnt come out of my time) and after I came back from the bathroom we began a roleplay where the story was that I was a naughty schoolboy and she was the headmistress. She spanked me and caned me, and then halfway through we did a switch, where I got to spank her back. (her bottom is amazing to spank) I can’t remember how she did it, but Alex made sure the storyline of the roleplay flowed very smoothly, and the whole thing was easy, rather than making me self conscious.

I described my ideas for our session (schoolgirl and teacher), and she had clearly read it carefully when I arrived. We discussed the scene and any limits – all documented on her website, so no surprises. The main idea was for her to persuade me to punish her, then switch to give me the same. After I’d showered, we started with me spanking her truly luscious backside, moving on to cane, tawse, plimsoll, belt, crop and cloggers (two varieties), first giving, then receiving, and ending with face sitting and full sex. Alex’s role playing was excellent, and she managed the transition from submissive to domina extremely well.

I’ve had four sessions with Alex over the last few months and every session has literally blown me away. She’s shown compassion, support and insight during our sessions and in the correspondence between sessions.

…and lasting impressions:

She is the epitome of professionalism and her web site, blog and twitter account provide access to intelligent debate and detailed advice about exploring BDSM and how to behave as a client. If your going to visit her, make an effort and read the guidance she provides.

If you try to be the best client you can – she will deliver one of the best experiences you will ever have with a professional. We’re all looking for different things when we decide to visit a sex worker. Show this woman respect and she’ll show you KINK you didn’t even know you were looking for !!

She is clearly bright and intuitive, can certainly hold an intelligent conversation, and seems genuinely interested in kink and related subjects.

I will definitely be going back, and would recommend Alex unreservedly.

I’ve already booked to see her again later this year, she’s worth trekking halfway across the UK for. I’ve been waiting to do something like this for more years than I can remember, and now I can’t work out why I never did before! I’m going to pass the time before our next session by remembering how her bum looks and looking at photos on her twitter page.

Thank you Alex for probably the best experience of this type in my life. I wish I could see you every day.

 

Huge thanks to all my wonderful clients who wrote such kind feedback.

Alex Explains: Spanking For Beginners

Many’s the time I have dispensed the following advice to gentlemen taking their first tentative steps towards fulfilling their dominant potential. Whilst I love to provide guidance on my favourite activity, I feel that some of the key points would be best collected here online, for a number of reasons. Perhaps you’re too shy to have arranged to meet me yet, convinced you haven’t a clue what to do if you found a bottom exposed over your lap? Or maybe you’d like to recap on what I mentioned to you in our session, having been very distracted by the aforementioned derriere? My main reason for putting my thoughts on the matter into words though, is that I don’t think there’s any such thing as too much education, and if my tips on spanking can help a novice spank his wife to orgasm, or figure out best on how he’d like to receive a spanking, or just have a nice read on the train (careful who’s looking over your shoulder now!) then I’ll be very satisfied.

Firstly communication is key. Before any fun commences, chat with your play partner about their particular tastes, tendencies and inclinations when it comes to spanking. Do they like the ritualistic nature of punishment? The element of humiliation, shame and embarrassment? Are they keen to explore the power exchange, to savour the moment indignant struggle becomes willing compliance? Or perhaps they’re strictly interested in how a set of pale white cheeks will respond to firm discipline, first by going pink and warm, before turning a deep red or maybe acquiring some deep red stripes or welts? Ask them. Agree on a communication method such as a traffic-light system or safe-word, so the spankee can indicate their sensation mid-play.  This is especially important when you are playing with a professional submissive, switch or domme, because you have a limited time only, and consent can not be assumed from intimacy or familiarity.

I always like to start spankings over clothing – both the spanker and the spankee then get the chance to size up the others technique or responses, which means no nasty surprises! I also enjoy the ritualistic nature of removing one piece of clothing at a time, and making that last as long as possible is part of the fun! I like to go over a person’s lap for a spanking and be made to stand and strip off before bending back across them again.

After clothes come off, the spanking can continue over underwear. I personally enjoy a nice, slow build up, with rhythmic, even spanks landing on each cheek alternately. The best spot for me when I’m receiving a spanking is the fullest part, just above the crease at the top of my leg. I don’t enjoy having my legs spanked, but for some people this is good fun – again, ask for feedback from your spankee as you go along. You should also take care at this stage to also be warming your hand up! Cupping the hand rather than wielding it like a stiff wooden plank will make a nicer sound, feel nicer for the spankee but most importantly allow you to spank for longer without getting sore !

When you’ve warmed up the bottom with some gentle spanking and stroking, which can take varying amounts of time from a minute to ten minutes (or however long you like to linger on this part!) then you can progress to slightly harder smacks. I usually do about 8-16 across one cheek then the other, followed by a few seconds of stroking and squeezing, maybe dragging my fingernails very lightly across the skin. Mixing up the sensations feels great!

As the intensity and firmness of your spanking heats up, so will the spankee’s bottom! When it’s gone nice and pink, gently pull down the underwear (I like this to happen slowly so the elastic in the pants pulls across the warm skin) and continue to spank and stroke, gently increasing in pressure over a period of time.  I find a good rhythm to be essential to my enjoyment of a spanking,

This is often a good time to switch positions if you have a yearning to see your spankee’s bottom in some different positions! You could pop them bending over clasping ankles, or perhaps lying on their back with their legs up over their head? A classic one for ‘visual’ types is in front of a mirror, to better see either the face or bottom.

I personally can take the hardest spankings when I’ve been warmed up and taken slowly up my limits over a period of at least 20 minutes. Sometimes a Dom might wish to accelerate the pace in a shorter time, and that can be fun too, but it means I have to have my pre-negotiated signal at the ready. I will often call out as number as the initial spanks land on me – “three! Six!” – to indicate on a scale of 1-10 how I’m finding the intensity. Seven or eight are my perfect numbers, nine is my upper limit, and “Ten!” is the spanking equivalent of an emergency stop.  This must, of course, be obeyed, just as with the deployment of a safe-word or physical disengagement from the activity. Consent and mutual enjoyment are paramount!

"Ooh! Seven! Perfect!"

“Ooh! Seven! Perfect!”

After the desired level or redness (or contrition!) has been reached, and you consider the spanking to have been effective, it can be nice to apply some soothing cream to the spanked bottom, and rubbing it in slowly is a nice way for things to continue to the next level.

Do leave a comment if you’d like to add your own tips and preferences for spanking. I do hope I’ll be seeing some of you soon for your chance to put all this theory into practise!